My 16 year-old daughter had a competition on Sunday for winter guard. What is winter guard, you ask?! I asked the same thing! It is a combination of dance, flags, rifles, and sabers. You’ve probably seen the flags with marching band. Winter guard, however, is different and a new world to us!
When we arrived at the competition, I was totally floored! Hundreds of spectators, competitors and amazing performances! This being our first competition, we were a bit overwhelmed! In a good way, however! Chelsea’s eyes glowed with admiration and longing as we watched different groups perform. She loves to perform and loved watching all those other performances.
Then, her small group of 5 performed. It was beautiful, she smiled the entire time and did a fantastic job. This being her very first competition in this “guard world,” she had very high hopes. Those were quickly dashed when she learned the scores.
How can I help her see that her performance really didn’t need to be scored to be beautiful and perfect? How can I help her see that the score isn’t everything, especially when it’s your first attempt? How can I help her see this is just the first step in a long journey?
How do I help her learn that the score, or any score, doesn’t define her?